There’s been so much talk about setting an example of a positive body imagine, and being present with your kids instead of worrying about how you look in a swimsuit. I can totally get on board with this idea in my head, but if we’re all being honest, it’s extremely hard to push past our own insecurities and it’s causing us to miss the big moments. The good stuff with your kids.
It’s easier said than done, isn’t it?
The not caring.
Because we do.
We all do.
We all have our “stuff” about our own bodies, and our own personalities that we’d like to fix, change, and adjust. So I’m not here to say that we should ignore those insecurities completely. I honestly believe those insecurities are what motivates us to better ourselves. And positive growth and continuing to be a better version of yourself is never a bad example to provide to our kids. But it’s HOW we go about addressing those insecurities, that really matter around our little ones.
It’s just not realistic to convince ourselves that we will never have those little things about us that we’d like to change. And that’s not a realistic example to show our kids either. On the flip side, it might possibly make our kids feel isolated when they have insecurities of their own. Because they WILL have them sometimes in their lives. Our job is to teach positive ways to address those insecurities in the eyes of our kids.
It’s an obvious bit of advice to tell girl moms to love their own bodies in front of their little girls, but as a boy mom, it’s my job to also love my body in front of my kids. Because I am their very first example of how to respect a woman’s body.
I strive to show them the parts of myself I’m most proud of but also the parts I’d like to change. In a healthy way. It’s not realistic to expect a mom to only have positive thoughts about their own body. But what I’m suggesting is that we’re careful in our criticism. That we’re sharing the thoughts that motivate us for positive change and sharing the things we love too.
But this tip is not just for the girl moms. It’s for the boy moms too.
It’s for us all.
Boys need to see self respect too, and if they’re ever going to learn to respect their own bodies and the bodies of others, they need to see that demonstrated from adults they look up to most. I not only want my boys to love their own bodies and maintain his high self esteem but also to love, cherish, value and respect girls’ bodies in the future.
So I challenge you, mom of girls and mom of boys, to practice self respect in front of our next generation. I’m not asking you to hide all your insecurities, I’m simply asking that you model positive change and constructive criticism so that the next generation can develop a healthy sense of worth and value of their bodies. The parts the love and the parts they don’t. And learn to accept and love their bodies.
Boys need this too, Mamas!
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